Interchangeable Pawns

Often we take personally the slings and arrows of our ‘abusers’. But frequently we are merely the interchangeable pawns of their own neurotic dramas. Anyone else in your position would have received the same treatment. There is nothing especially noxious or negatively noteworthy about you.

Messages from the Masters
Brian Weiss

I first discovered Brian Weiss the way many people stumbled upon him.  Reading Many Lives, Many Masters, when the book was published was my introduction to the concept of past lives.  Dr.  Weiss is a graduate of Columbia University and Yale Medical School, Brian L. Weiss M.D. is Chairman Emeritus of Psychiatry at the Mount Sinai Medical Center in Miami.  He has speaking engagements all over.  The Omega Institute in Rhinebeck, New York is one of his frequent stops on his lecture circuit.  I’ve always wanted to see him and always wanted to visit Omega but have never made the time.

Another frequent topic I’ve discussed here.  As I’ve maintained in the past when writing about similar themes however is the fact that it is always a good thing to recall frequent challenges we all face in this current incarnation we are experiencing.

When you are faced with a negative comment from someone, it is important to realize that many times the aggressor is living out their emotional baggage.  What they are doing or saying to you is really how they feel.  The psychological term for this action is called:
Transference.

I think we are all guilty of this at some points in our lives.  The challenge is knowing when this occurs, being able to recognize it, and not reacting to another’s negative comment or situation.  The thing we must keep in mind and something I tend to forget (and if I have a habit of forgetting I’m sure others do as well) is the second and third line of the passage above:
Anyone else in your position would have received the same treatment.

We were just the unfortunate victim who crossed the path at the right time.  The only thing you can do in that event is lat the aggressor vent, then move on.  Don’t stay angry.  If you must; speak up, say your peace then move on.  Because what happens when you stay angry?  It only hurts you, correct?  As I’ve said before, put down that hot piece of coal.

Be Happy!  Be Well!  Be Positive!
Blessings to you.
–
Chris

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Interchangeable Pawns