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Don't Focus on Success

Money and success isn't the object. Happiness is the object. Happiness is success, not money.

If you focus on success, you’ll have stress. But if you pursue excellence, success will be guaranteed.

 

 

Deepak Chopra


A favorite, recurring theme on Wisdom and Life.  A correlation to this and something I’m fond of saying is:
Don’t chase the money.

Why not?

Because if you chase the money, if as Deepak says, you chase success, you’ll only be gathering resistance, you’ll only be chasing your shadow.  What you’ll find in the end is as Deepak states:
Stress.

Because money isn’t the object.
Because money shouldn’t be the object.
Because success isn’t the object.

If you compare yourself to someone who has been successful and you decide to go beyond them, but only by chasing more success, more money, you will fail because the stress you feel chasing achievement, will only intensify as you continually grasp for that golden egg.  Do you really want to be fiscally successful, but emotionally drained?  Because that’s what will happen.

You may become financially blessed but I know many people who are fortunate fiscally but live an emotionally turbulent life?

Why?

Because these people spend their lives chasing the money, chasing the success.  So if you’re not supposed to chase the money, then what are you supposed to pursue?  Well, let me ask you that same question?

What do YOU suppose someone should chase?

Would love to hear your replies in the comment section.

Be Happy!  Be Well!  Be Positive!
Blessings to you.

Chris

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Pem McNerney (Editor) December 05, 2012 at 12:35 PM
I agree! And what else ... ? I'd say, in addition to pursuing excellence, it would make sense to pursue what you are passionate about, time with people you care about and who care about you, and opportunities to love and be loved.
Peter Dinella December 05, 2012 at 03:06 PM
Forget Deepak, Mae West was right: “ I've been rich and I've been poor. Believe me, rich is better. ” -Mae West
Pem McNerney (Editor) December 05, 2012 at 03:11 PM
=) ... yes, well, wouldn't want to pick an argument with Mae!
Peter Dinella December 05, 2012 at 03:16 PM
You're right, and she was a "loving" person besides!
Pem McNerney (Editor) December 05, 2012 at 05:15 PM
Ah, "love." We might be talking apples and oranges here (or maybe bananas?) ... still yes, her reputation in that area is fully intact. I love the story about how one of her boyfriends was banned from a building he wanted access to ... so she bought the building. Problem solved. Now _that's_ love.
Daria Novak December 06, 2012 at 01:15 PM
There is a wonderful Greek word we are using as the name of the Institute for American Politics' monthly magazine. It says it all.... eudaimonia. It means human flourishing with prosperity and happiness. What a combo!
Pem McNerney (Editor) December 06, 2012 at 01:25 PM
Great word! That's a word that everyone in the οἰκουμένη should know!
Nancy December 06, 2012 at 01:56 PM
BALANCE, BALANCE, BALANCE, PLEASE.
Peter Di Pietro December 06, 2012 at 02:13 PM
try τύχη. end of story.
Pem McNerney (Editor) December 06, 2012 at 02:21 PM
Hahaha!! Yup. Love that Lady Luck. End of story. Period. (although additional comments always welcome, in English or any other language ... )
Olivia Scaros December 06, 2012 at 03:01 PM
Follow your bliss....
Peter Dinella December 06, 2012 at 07:22 PM
Go for the green and lots of it! “Too much of a good thing can be wonderful!” ― Mae West
REVMAN December 06, 2012 at 08:27 PM
Chase the MONEY--money is a tool and make sure your tool box is full.
Daria Novak December 06, 2012 at 08:40 PM
Pem, I so hope you can translate your Greek word as I don't speak the language - LOL. I'm curiouser and curiouser..... what does it mean?
Jim G. December 06, 2012 at 09:00 PM
Chasing money - in the form of choosing your schools, education, profession and career to make as much money as possible, with no thought to other considerations, has probably produced more unhappiness than any other pursuit. Chase happiness instead.
Peter Dinella December 06, 2012 at 10:49 PM
Hey! Jim, show me your stats. I agree with Bo! Whoever said money can't buy happiness simply didn't know where to go shopping. - Bo Derek
Dan December 06, 2012 at 11:27 PM
I agree with Jim. Chase happiness and riches will follow.
Peter Dinella December 07, 2012 at 12:40 AM
I agree with Barbara Wilder who wrote a book about this issue: The book "Money Is Love" teaches that as we begin to remove the negative thoughts and feelings that surround money and redefine money as love, we bring the power of love into all of our monetary transactions. This in turn opens our hearts to allow money to flow abundantly into our lives, creating a place of peace and joy. From this place of harmony we can then send money back out into the world on a flow of love and gratitude.
Daria Novak December 07, 2012 at 12:49 AM
It also may as simple as... if one has money then it relieves the stress associated with not having it, thus leading to more enjoyable experiences. While other problems may then loom large and fill the gap, new studies do indicate that those without financial stress rate themselves as happier than those without extra resources.
Pem McNerney (Editor) December 07, 2012 at 01:25 AM
Daria, οἰκουμένη or oiÎkoumeÑnh (pronounced oy-kou-men'-ay) = Greek for the inhabited earth, the universe, the world. It was a word I picked up while doing homework for a class and my goal was to use it in a sentence and now I have. =) It's good to have goals in life, even small ones.
Ex-Democrat December 07, 2012 at 10:09 PM
This is absolutely true. Howard hughes had megamillions and yet he died a hermit with no friends and with a dozen broken off drug needles still stuck in his skin because he was too much of a nut to go to the doctor. He pursued success and he became a successful man but i cant say he was a happy man for it.
Peter Dinella December 07, 2012 at 10:43 PM
Anecdotal proof is worthless. Happiness is totally subjective. So here we are not knowing anything more than we already knew on Wed Dec 5. I still think Mae West knew more than all of us!

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